Hi! I'm Anita

In 2020, my world fell apart when my 25-year-old son, Daniel, died unexpectedly.

Everything changed: who I was, how I saw the world, and how I showed up in my life and work. I didn’t recognize myself anymore. Suddenly, I was a grieving mom in a culture that doesn’t know how to talk about grief, especially not at work. People either said the wrong thing or nothing at all. Many just disappeared altogether.

Meanwhile, I was supposed to keep functioning. To keep showing up. To “get back to normal.”

Except there was no normal anymore.

Underneath the surface, I was unraveling. Not just from the pain of losing my child, but from the complete dismantling of my identity. I’d always been the one who held it all together. A high-capacity professional. A teacher. A mom of five boys. The one people turned to.

But grief leveled me. And in the wreckage, the questions came: Why him? Where is he now? What even happens after we die? I couldn’t ignore the pain, and honestly, I didn’t want to. I wanted to understand it. Feel it. Do something with it.

So I got support. I started therapy. I worked with coaches. I read all the books and tried all the tools. And slowly -- very slowly -- I began to rebuild.

Not the old life. That was gone.

But me.

A new version of me who could feel it all: grief, rage, love, joy. And still show up to my life with integrity.

Eventually, I found myself laughing again. Feeling genuine joy alongside the grief. I realized those two things don’t cancel each other out; they coexist.

That’s when Coaching With Anita was born.

Now, I help career-driven, high-capacity parents who’ve lost a child -- parents like me -- navigate the unthinkable. I support them as they make space for grief and stay engaged with the work and life that still matter to them.

This isn’t about pretending you’re okay.

It’s about learning how to function while you feel.

It’s about staying human in your heartbreak.

And it’s about not doing it alone.

If any of this sounds familiar, please know:

• You’re not broken. 

• You’re not weak. 

• And you’re definitely not alone.

If you’re ready to stop hiding your grief behind your job title and start integrating it into a life that still feels meaningful, I’d be honored to help you get there.